Too much sexual abuse and indulgence tires your body, and exhausts your mental powers which should be conserved for the greatest enlightenment, and to help yourself and to help mankind. It is more noble that way. That's all. Sexual misconduct means you have too many girlfriends, too many boy friends, too many husbands and wives. It exhausts your storehouse of energy.
It is very simple, it means that if you have a husband already, please don't consider a second! Keep your life more simple, no complications and quarrelling over emotions. It causes hurt feelings for other people. We don't harm other people, even emotionally. We try to avoid conflicts, try to avoid suffering emotionally, physically and mentally for everyone, especially our loved ones. That's all. If you already have a lover, don't tell him or her. It hurts more when you tell. Just solve it slowly and quietly, and don't confess to him. Sometimes, people think if they have an affair, and they go home and confess to their wife or their husband, that it is very wise and very honest. It's nonsense. It is no good. You already made the mistake, why bring your garbage home and let other people enjoy it? If he doesn't know about it, he doesn't feel that bad. The fact of knowing hurts. So we try to solve that problem and not to have it again, and that's it.
Q. I saw in Your leaflet that there are five precepts. Once you are initiated, you have to live according to these five precepts?
M. Yes, yes, yes. These are the laws of the universe.
Q. I don't understand sexual misconduct.
M. It means if you have a husband already, please don't consider the second.
Q. Okay. (Audience laughs)
M. Very simple. Keep your life more simple, no complication and quarreling over emotions. Yes. It causes hurt feelings for other people. We don't harm other people, even emotionally. That's what it is. We try to avoid conflicts, try to avoid suffering, emotionally, physically, mentally for everyone, especially our loved ones, that's all. Okay? If you already have one, don't tell him. It hurts more when you tell. Just solve it slowly and quietly, and don't confess to him. Because sometimes people think if they have an affair, and then they go home and confess to his wife or her husband, that's very wise and very honest. It's nonsense. It's no good. You already made mistake, why you bring garbage home and to let other people enjoy it? If he doesn't know about it, he doesn't feel that bad. You understand? The fact of knowing hurts. So we try to solve that problem and not to have it again, and that's it. Better not to talk to the partner about this, because it will hurt them, hurt the partners. Yeah!
Q. Master, one of the five precepts is refrain from sexual misconduct. How does this apply to singles?
M. Oh! What we mean is that you should
be faithful to each other. But in the case of some of the other
religious orders, they may, due to their tradition, have many
wives. If they already had them before initiation, then that doesn't
mean they have to separate and take only one. But in the general
case we tell people to refrain from having too many ties, because
if you have one wife, I think you suffer enough. Oh, sorry. (Laughter)
I mean... I am sorry. Don't kill me please. What I mean is the
suffering in affairs of the heart are very heavy for the wife
or the husband to bear. And that you don't want to cause to other
people, let alone your beloved friends, or the mother or father
of your children.
So that's why we say refrain from having another affair if you are already married. But if you already have before initiation, just keep it like that. And better don't let the other to know each other. Minimize the suffering. The less suffering the better, because it will affect you also. You will have a bad conscience and guilty feelings. How can you meditate in peace? When you meditate you want to think about God. All you think about is the second or the third wife. Yeah! How she wanted to beat you last night because you came late, etc., etc. Or you bought better clothes for the other one etc., etc. Aiya! so many troubles. It hurts. That's why. That is called sexual misconduct.
But in the case of people who are not yet married, of course in the modern time, I can not tell people don't, don't, don't do that, you know. Yeah! Then try to be faithful to each other, yeah? It's good for the heart, good for your moral and good for the mutual trust between each other and especially good for your health, you know nowadays. You read newspapers more than I do. The letters spelled very big. Should I say more? More and more people die from AIDS each day, so take care of yourself.
Q. Do you respect homosexual relationships the same as you do heterosexual ones?
M. I don't know really, I am not expert in both.(laughter) All I can tell you is why do you identify yourself with the body and call yourself a homosexual or a heterosexual at all? We are not the body, brothers, we are the holy spirit. We are love incarnated, we are all wisdom, we are the Supreme Master of all things in the universe. Why do you identify yourself in such a manner and degrading yourself and making yourself feel inferior by classifying yourself as such and such. Know yourself as God, get enlightenment and all these things are just matter of temporary transit.