Q. Dear Master, I always wonder how to love others wholeheartedly and receive the same treatment. Thank You!
M. Well, you can love people, but people might not love you. So the best thing is to just love them; no expectation. Then we'll not feel hurt. That's difficult in marriage. Well, it's very difficult to love some people that you do not know. So the best is that you love someone that you know, wholeheartedly and devotedly as best as you can. Sincerely, no need to show off too much. But if you love someone, just say so. And show it, because sometimes people think, "Oh, I love him, I love her. I don't have to say it. She'll know. He'll feel it." Feeling and hearing are different. We have many organs: smelling, seeing, and hearing. So we love to see, and hear as well. Most men do not show emotion. But this is why sometimes the marriage doesn't last, does not feel very solid, does not feel very secured, because the husband does not show. And it is better we show each other that we appreciate each other before it's too late.
Love your family members wholeheartedly; sacrifice for them whenever necessary; do everything you can in your power to help them and to let them know that you love them. And to other members of mankind, you just show your love universally, and help whoever needs your help. That is the way of love. You don't have to hug everyone on the street, just to show your big hug. (Master laughs.) I don't hug people that easily. Except I do that sometimes to the disciples and when I see the poor people, I have to hug them more. I don't know why. Something pushes you; something inside just makes you feel you want to do it. And you don't even think; you don't have time to think about it at that moment. When I see a poor person, the people, not only giving money, but their fate, their miserable condition, I don't mind anything. I could kiss them, hug them all day long. No problem. Or the prisoners, sometimes the more dreaded people, I just don't think. I can not think anymore at that moment. I just feel, "They need something; they need my love." I feel something urging inside, that makes you do it spontaneously. And that is the time you should show. At that moment it's really true love.
You cannot reason anymore. You can not tell yourself to stop or you can not tell yourself to do it. You can not tell yourself why you want to hug. No, no more reason; no more thinking. Just do it. You know what I mean? If such a kind of thing happens, then you know that is the true love. That is the spontaneous love. There's nothing to talk about. Otherwise, if we sit here and reason about how to love people, that's nonsense. You can't teach anyone to love anyone. You know what I mean?